Have you ever heard the saying, "You've overstayed your welcome"? This is usually stated when a person has allowed someone to stay/visit their home for a certain period of time and they extend the stay past what was agreed. The flip side of that is that sometimes there is no said agreement but an assumption that the person will know when their time has expired. Then the comfortability of the stay may be misinterpreted or understood differently between the two parties. Like for instance a person may say, "I will need only a few weeks to stay." The owner agrees to it, however, a few weeks to the owner may mean 2-3 weeks, however, to the visitor, it could mean 4-5 weeks. When it is not clearly defined, then it could breach a boundary that was never set.
An "overstay of a welcome" can cause severance in the relationship, frustration and offenses that are unrepairable. Some people abuse the opportunity that was given to them and take advantage of the kind gesture. The key is to make sure that you are still welcomed.
"Overstaying your welcome" applies to all relationships…
I don’t know about you, but I am loyal to a fault. A nomad I am not. However, there is a lot to be said about a person that moves from place to place. Some may see them as being unstable, a person that does not know what they want in life or an avoidant person. As a loyalist, I have recently viewed a nomadic person as perhaps being courageous, decisive about what they want and know when it’s time to move on. Don’t get me wrong, #loyalty has all the benefits. A loyal person is trustworthy, supportive, values honesty and fulfills promises. A loyal person values commitment and respects #boundaries.
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But when you are loyal to “a fault” at times, then that’s when all those values are compromised by losing yourself in the said relationships. Overstaying your welcome will cause you to self-abandon, endure abusive behaviors, frustrate purpose, block you from new circles and opportunities and hinder growth. Because I am a #loyalist to “a fault” at times, God often has to disrupt my life and sometimes “pull me out of the fire” to move me forward to better and thus save my life from being destroyed.
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>>>>>>>>Let’s do a check in with yourself<<<<<<<<
Who are the people, things, places and thoughts you are hanging onto or have overstayed your welcome in?
In some situations, it may not mean ending a #relationship but instead finding ways to evolve in those relationships. For instance, you may not be able to move into another home, but you can move the furniture around in the room…or buy new items to refresh the space.💜
How do I evolve in the relationships, instead of ending it?
Improve on communication
Go to therapy/counseling. Not just for the relationship, but for yourself also
Take a course
Join unfamiliar circles
Participate in fun things on a regular bases
Find another job or position within the same company
If you are a business owner, choose new vendors for merchandise
Hire a business or life coach
Improve your social media presence, this will attract new opportunities
Attend another church service if you are not growing spiritually
Challenge your growth through uncomfortable interactions and settings
Unfortunately, there are some "relationships" that need to be severed due to lack of growth, abuse, toxicity, and the need to evolve. Just know that is not a moral failure when things change or have to an end. Ecclesiastes 7:8a states, "better is the end of a thing than the beginning..."
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