Why do people think that your happiness or their happiness means that they must leave instead of changing? How many divorces would not have to happen if there was an agreement to change mindsets, ideals, attitudes and opinions that does not align with the plan of God?
Divorce was allowed because of the hardness of heart between both or one spouse, however, it was not in the original design of marriage. Jesus replied, "Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning. Matthew 19:8
Marriage is to death do us part, the tricky part of that is what it takes to keep that commitment:
Don't lose sight on why God put you two together.
Is the reason you want to divorce worth leaving your spouse for?
After the emotions, will you regret the divorce later?
The two can never become one when they pull away emotionally from each other. "The more I try to get closer to him/her, the more they pull away instead of drawing closer also." This is often a recurring experience, as if coming into agreement with each other will take something away from him/her. What it takes is that person's individuality, so they feel. However, the thing is marriage is about the two growing into purpose, having an objective, and goals to make it work. It's not a tug of war or competition. Neither is it about control or dominance, instead it's allowing your love for God and each other to rule over any situation. Love should always be the winner in marriage.
For whoever wants to save his life will lose it but whoever loses his life for my sake, will save it. Matthew 16:25
When we try to keep our independence or ways that only work for our comfort, we risk losing our relationship. But if you lose your right to be right, your selfishness, your "it's my way or the highway" mentality, for the sake of Christ, you will save all of what God has for you as a couple and for your individual purpose.
If you are a person that feels that your hands are tied in trying to fix the marriage because your spouse refuses to change or has made the decision to leave...be reminded that you only have control over yourself. The Bible states if an unbelieving spouse desires to leave, let them go, Corinthians 7:14. It's heartbreaking I know but God will see you through and give you the strength and peace you need.
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