Are You a Fool for Love? Here’s How to Know

Are You a Fool for Love? Here’s How to Know

April Fool’s Day is all fun and games—until you realize you’ve been the fool in love. But let’s be real, we’ve all been there. Holding on when we should have let go. Ignoring red flags because we hoped things would change. Making excuses for someone who kept showing us exactly who they were.

But here’s the good news: healing is wisdom, and wisdom is learning from the past.

Signs You’re Playing the Fool in Love

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   You Keep Ignoring the Red Flags - That gut feeling? The warning signs? The moments when you felt uneasy but brushed it off? Those weren’t accidents—they were divine nudges. Proverbs 27:12 (NLT) says, "A prudent person foresees danger and takes precautions. The simpleton goes blindly on and suffers the consequences." Love should never require you to ignore your discernment.

   
   

2. You Confuse Potential with Reality - Do you love who they could be more than who they actually are? Sis, potential is not a promise. If you’re constantly waiting for someone to one day become the partner you need, you might be loving a fantasy, not a person.

   
   

3. You Stay Because You Don’t Want to "Start Over" - Staying in the wrong relationship to avoid being alone is like holding onto expired milk because you don’t want to go to the store. God’s best for you will never be found in a relationship that’s breaking you.

   
   

4. You’re Waiting for an Apology That May Never Come - Closure doesn’t always require a conversation. Sometimes, it’s choosing to heal even without the apology you deserved. Romans 12:19 reminds us, "Vengeance is mine; I will repay, says the Lord." Stop waiting for them to fix what they broke and start allowing God to heal you.

   
   

5. You Keep Running Back to What Broke You - Love isn’t supposed to feel like a cycle of pain and disappointment. If you keep going back to the same hurt, it’s time to ask yourself: Am I in love with them, or am I just familiar with the pain?

   
   

How to Stop Being a Fool for Love

• Acknowledge where you ignored wisdom. Healing starts when we admit the truth.

• Set a new standard. Not just any love, but a love that reflects God’s heart for you.

• Trust God’s plan over your comfort zone. What if what you’re afraid of losing is nothing compared to what He’s preparing for you?

  
  

When the Bleeding Stops: Healing is Possible

The reason we fall into foolish love is because we haven't healed the parts of us that crave it. But healing is possible. When the Bleeding Stops is your guide to breaking toxic patterns and learning to love in a way that honors God and yourself.

Sis, you don’t have to be a fool for love. You can be wise, healed, and whole.

Ready to step into healing? Coming Soon to order: When the Bleeding Stops.