I spent most of my life thinking that it was my responsibility to save others. Some of it was due to programming and conditioning. Some were because of faulty teaching. Once I became aware of my why, I began to search for answers and healing. What I discovered was that I was Codependent. In sociology, codependency is a theory that attempts to explain imbalanced relationships where one person enables another person's self-destructive behavior such as addiction, poor mental health, immaturity, irresponsibility, or under-achievement.
Many of us were taught to be overly responsible as children. Perhaps you were the oldest or was a caretaker of an adult as a child. Meaning having to see about their needs, they may have over shared with you, or you mostly saw them in a weaker state of being and had to fend for yourself. Either way, it was a default setting for you to grow up thinking you are the "saver" or "fixer" of other people's problems, forsaking yourself. Indirectly, it teaches us to ensure that other's well being is more important than our own. I had lost myself for years and did not realize it until I began to unpack it all.
In fact, our identity is derived from that. Do get in relationships with people who need saving? Do you thrive off of rescuing your children, masked as "being there for them," only crippling their ability to grow? Perhaps your career choice may be of saving lives. And while that is honorable, do you do it at the risk of losing your own life?
As you answer those questions truthfully...
Start evaluating your why's
Connect with your inner self
Pray and ask God to reveal it
Seek therapy
Be free
When I did the work, that's when I begin to not only save my life but all of the things and people pertaining to my life.
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